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A butterfly lights beside us like a sunbeam
And for a brief moment its glory
and beauty belong to our world
But then it flies again
And though we wish it could have stayed...
We feel lucky to have seen it.

Sometimes there just are no words. I think small handkerchiefs are thoughtful gifts to give to a grieving friend to let her know you care.

For many centuries butterflies have symbolized the human soul. They can be found in paintings, on pottery and on tombstones. Many cultures view the butterfly as a loved one's spirit passing through to the next world. I have stitched this pale yellow butterfly in memory of all the babies and children who will never get to come home and play, but will get to dance on a summer breeze.

I have personally suffered two miscarriages and still remember all the thoughtful cards and well wishes from friends. Many tears came with each loss. This small hanky can be used to dry tears and even packed away in a memory box, or used as a bookmark in a bible.

~ Handkerchiefs can be sent to a grieving friend in lieu of flowers and last many years.

~ Handkerchief measures 12 inch square.

~ Made from 100% Cotton, with beautiful lace edging on one corner.

~ Hand embroidered using a vintage embroidery pattern and delicate stitches.

~ A small thank you gift is enclosed with each order.

~ Gift cards enclosed at no extra fee upon request.

~ Hand wash cold, lay flat, or hang to dry - instructions included.

~ Handkerchief come to you washed, pressed, wrapped in cornflower blue tissue paper and tied with ribbon. It is boxed in a white handkerchief box with a touching poem about miscarriage. (gift boxes shipped flat). *Poem may be removed or substituted if desired. Please let me know if you have another you would like included. I have several others available.

* Basic monogramming available for an additional $5.00 (see sample photo). Please contact me before checking out.

This is the poem:


I long to feel the soft weight of you
to welcome you home, with kisses
on silky round cheeks.

Instead my arms ache with the
weight of your absence,
the empty places that were meant for you
to grow into.

My love for you will last an eternity
My hopes and dreams now carried
on the fragile wings of each butterfly passing
compelling me to pause,
to savor each moment,
each flutter in my heart, your wings.


While Waiting for Thee

Don't weep at my grave, for I am not there,
I've a date with a butterfly to dance in the air.
I'll be singing in the sunshine, wild and free,
Playing tag with the wind, while I'm waiting for thee.

- We are as the wings of a butterfly, bound together with the love of God.
* angel statue not included

* A portion of the proceeds from the sale of this handkerchief will go to benefit the Good Samaritan Hospital Perinatal Bereavement Program in Suffern, NY.

I have been selling sympathy handkerchiefs on Etsy since 2007. I have recently seen other shops imitating my products. Please buy with confidence from the original with years of selling on Etsy and postive feedback.

What people are saying about my handkerchiefs:

"My friend really appreciated this hanky and the poem that came with it. She almost wanted to frame them both instead of using it."


"Jacklyn's handmade hankies are so beautiful and truly are thoughtful gifts. I've been returning to her shop again and again, and it's always a pleasure."

Free Like A Butterfly - Pregnancy Loss, Infant Loss, Memorial, Sympathy Handkerchief - Hand Embroidered


  • Handmade item
  • Material: cotton
  • Feedback: 700 reviews
  • Ships worldwide from New Jersey, United States