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Original Post

Sooo, I guess I kind of signed up for one of those cyberbegging things:

Let's discuss the morality of this: is it wrong to just ask people for money? I mean, I feel like it is, but at the same time, I'm looking to purchase something that would help me with my art, and I already have a job as many nights as I possibly can.

So what do you guys think?

I'm guessing I'm just going to swallow my pride and give it a shot.

Posted at 12:31am Apr 6, 2007 EDT


I don't know.

I mean, I see nothing wrong with it as long as there isn't a scam involved.

It's just that even in my most dire moments right after high school, when I thought I had nothing and I was truly worried about where I was going to live...I had an extremely difficult time just calling my mother and asking for food money, and even then I asked her tp get me gift certificates to Safeway rather than send cash.

So for me, I just don't know how people do it. I have helped people who ask a few times, and I always feel good especially when I can help someone who is obviously doing many things to help themselves. Like folks here on often see folks asking for sales that benefit something, and that's great.

Posted at 12:37am Apr 6, 2007 EDT

Yeah, I have a hard time asking my parents for help, too, not just with money matters, but other things as well. I think it's hard for me to believe that I cannot possibly do everything I try to do.

I've helped out some people here, and I've had some really generous offers and help from people here, even without asking.

I know there are a lot of scams out there, but there are some good caring people out there.

Posted at 12:41am Apr 6, 2007 EDT

Hey, Have you checked if there is a freecycle in your area. You would be surprised what folks give away!

Posted at 12:48am Apr 6, 2007 EDT

kobedog says

plastic, i actually gave my old digital camera to a bunny rescue group who requested it on my local freecycle. i've also seen someone ask and receive an ipod.

as far as asking for money, i don't think there is anything wrong with it if there is no scam involved. it never hurts to ask. people donate money to charities, why not to someone personally?

Posted at 12:54am Apr 6, 2007 EDT

Oh, freecycling, I will have to check it out. Thanks, guys!

Posted at 1:22am Apr 6, 2007 EDT

Eh, all you can do is give it a shot right?

I forget the link, but what about that lady who got her 20,000 or something debt payed off by strangers on her website...but I'm pretty sure that was before the whole 'internet tip jar' concept came around so seemed like a novel idea and it worked for her.

I personally wouldn't do one but I have put money in other peoples, or paypalled when we have threads on etsy with people in hard situations. A dollar or so isn't going to make much difference in my life and I like paying it forward =)

Posted at 1:38am Apr 6, 2007 EDT

kobedog says

you could always try one of those ads you see in Metro papers that say something like "learn how to make money. send $1 to..."
i always thought that was funny :)

Posted at 1:41am Apr 6, 2007 EDT

Yeah, everyone can send me a dollar and then I'll write back and tell them to place an ad saying the same thing.

Flawless plan!

Seriously, I don't know how anyone can afford the art school life. I might have to give up on grad school.

Posted at 9:24am Apr 6, 2007 EDT

Think of it this way: All you've done is put up a page. People can click if they want to or go elsewhere. You're not following people and shaking a cup at them, you're not badgering people about it, you're simply saying, "Hey, I'm an artist and I'd like to be better at it and this would really help me out. If you would like to contribute, please feel free."

The internet has helped me out in many a rough time--even when I've been too proud to ask for myself. (I had a friend take the liberty of posting up a link to my paypal once when she found out I'd flubbed my checkbook and couldn't cover rent.) There are a lot of jackholes out there but I have also found that there are a lot of really nice people as well. The nice people restore my faith in humanity periodically. I like to pay that forward. I'd suggest once you accumulate your funds for your new camera, you do the same thing--every now and again, stick a buck or two into someone's beg-fund. It all adds up and it keeps the good karma circling!

Posted at 10:45am Apr 6, 2007 EDT