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So I'm getting married.
My SO's family are DEMANDING that I have at least three children. Like I'm one those machines that you stick a quarter in and get a toy. And it's not like they tease, they generally corner me and demand it like they're some sort of mafia that I owe money to. They get all insulting and into my personal life if I say I don't.
I'm in my twenties. I'm going to graduate school AT LEAST when I'm 29, if not 30. My career is going to be one in which I will have virtually no time and will be on call and generally not home often. Having kids has never been a priority in my life and my future career makes me NOT want kids even more because I won't be around enough for them, and I feel like I'd be a crapastic mother because of it.
Why the eff do people think weddings = childbirth and kids? My reproductive organs, I decide what to do with themm.
Posted at 5:48 am Jun 14, 2010 EDT
Belle, I'm a rural GP and have one son. I completely understand how you feel with work and timing and children. It is very hard but it is possible if you want it.
My advice is have lots of talks with your SO and as long as you two are ok that's all that matters!
Posted at 6:08 am Jun 14, 2010 EDT
If you change your mind later, you can be the walking miracle. They'll think you're holy.
In the meantime, you could say you've been seeing your doctor pals, and nothing can be done.
Maybe they'll let you tag along on the dates they set up for your SO!
Posted at 6:11 am Jun 14, 2010 EDT