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Grey Hanky- Mature

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worn in right pocket-likes to be dominated + restrained/ bondage bottom
worn in left pocket- likes to dominate + restrain/ bondage top

Hand silkscreened on colored bandanas with black ink and/or thiox. Slight variations in color, images and sizes may occur.

Approximately 13" square

The Hanky Code originated in the 1960s in a series of gay leather bars around Los Angles, California. In it’s infancy the code was used primarily by gay men, specifically those involved in the BDSM (bondage discipline sadomasochism) lifestyle. The Hanky Code functioned as a color coded system for communicating illegal or stigmatized sexual desires, within the construct of top and bottom, or dominate and submissive (signified by the pocket the hanky is worn in). These small colored garments lubricated the wearer’s navigation through sexual relations, while simultaneously responding to the dangers those sexual relations play in terms of identity, specifically within an environment of sexual oppression.

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5 out of 5 stars
Reviewed by PW Islington
5 out of 5 stars
Jan 30, 2018
Thanks for this! I needed some stuff for conventions this year and this is just perfect. Whatever scented oil was put on it smells amazing but I have no clue what it is xD
Hunter Green Hanky- Mature

Reviewed by Jennifer D'Mello
5 out of 5 stars
Dec 7, 2017
Mint Green Hanky- Mature

Reviewed by cheri russell
5 out of 5 stars
Nov 28, 2017
Love this so much. Super fast shipping and really cool design.
Purple Hanky- Mature


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We have put out hearts into this project, and hope you enjoy it as much as we do. All items were hand screen printed from original images. Some of the fabric was hand dyed. With all of these variants, please keep in mind that no two items are the same!

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You can find some of maria's other art at worndress.etsy.com and seagrapesoap.etsy.com


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