ToBeHis

Luxury BDSM Day Collars & Locks -Fine Jewelry

Ocala, Florida · 5691 Sales

ToBeHis

Luxury BDSM Day Collars & Locks -Fine Jewelry

Ocala, Florida 5691 Sales On Etsy since 2014

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Announcement   ***EXTREMELY IMPORTANT! DO NOT IGNORE THE FOLLOWING*****

PLEASE READ YOUR PROVIDED PROCESSING TIMES GUYS! Processing times are calculated by the size of my current order queue and the time it will take for me to actually make the piece (or pieces) when it becomes your orders turn to come to my work bench for creation. This CANNOT be swayed outside of the listed date, so please plan accordingly. *** Please DO NOT ask me to expedite your order. It cannot be done.*** I am usually extremely inundated with orders, so we keep it fair and in sequence for everybody. Orders are done in the order of which the they are received. Please also remember that processing times and shipping times are two totally different things. "Processing time" is the time it will take for your orders turn to come up to my work bench, to be crafted and completed. "Shipping time" is the time it takes for USPS to deliver it to you once it has left our hands. You will have the opportunity to select your shipping speed at checkout.

Also, please know that any information left in the "order notes" will not be read until your order comes up in queue, to be made. So if you need it by a certain time, if you want engraving, if you need any important information addressed, you MUST write me via the etsy messaging system, BEFORE purchasing anything. Otherwise you will delay your own order that much longer. If it's important, you need to tell me and make sure I know about it.

We do try take weekends off. We need time to recuperate from such a jam packed week, you guys are keeping us very very busy :) We may pop in from time to time with our messages, but that's not the norm, and not to be expected. Just a heads up!

THANK YOU SO MUCH!
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WHATS IS A DAY COLLAR?
A day collar’s sole and definitive function is temporary and symbolic adornment, used to discreetly represent ownership, and is to only be used in situations where a house or play collar would not be appropriate, or “vanilla” type situations (work, a vanilla type party, family outings, school, etc.). Day collars are not to be confused with the recently adapted and trending collar, “everyday collar”.
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Announcement

Last updated on Feb 9, 2018

***EXTREMELY IMPORTANT! DO NOT IGNORE THE FOLLOWING*****

PLEASE READ YOUR PROVIDED PROCESSING TIMES GUYS! Processing times are calculated by the size of my current order queue and the time it will take for me to actually make the piece (or pieces) when it becomes your orders turn to come to my work bench for creation. This CANNOT be swayed outside of the listed date, so please plan accordingly. *** Please DO NOT ask me to expedite your order. It cannot be done.*** I am usually extremely inundated with orders, so we keep it fair and in sequence for everybody. Orders are done in the order of which the they are received. Please also remember that processing times and shipping times are two totally different things. "Processing time" is the time it will take for your orders turn to come up to my work bench, to be crafted and completed. "Shipping time" is the time it takes for USPS to deliver it to you once it has left our hands. You will have the opportunity to select your shipping speed at checkout.

Also, please know that any information left in the "order notes" will not be read until your order comes up in queue, to be made. So if you need it by a certain time, if you want engraving, if you need any important information addressed, you MUST write me via the etsy messaging system, BEFORE purchasing anything. Otherwise you will delay your own order that much longer. If it's important, you need to tell me and make sure I know about it.

We do try take weekends off. We need time to recuperate from such a jam packed week, you guys are keeping us very very busy :) We may pop in from time to time with our messages, but that's not the norm, and not to be expected. Just a heads up!

THANK YOU SO MUCH!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
WHATS IS A DAY COLLAR?
A day collar’s sole and definitive function is temporary and symbolic adornment, used to discreetly represent ownership, and is to only be used in situations where a house or play collar would not be appropriate, or “vanilla” type situations (work, a vanilla type party, family outings, school, etc.). Day collars are not to be confused with the recently adapted and trending collar, “everyday collar”.
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My name is victoria. I am 26 years old and the founder + proprietor of ToBeHis LLC. My journey started 5 years ago with my very first stumble into the BDSM community where I soon after left my life, my city and all of my literal (and not so literal) baggage behind for a new life in Ocala Florida to be with the love of my life and Master since, Paul. ToBeHis is my baby, my pride and joy that was once a small etsy store that I have raised into a full time multifaceted and multiplatform company. I myself am a 1950's household 24/7 TPE slave. ToBeHis is the brainchild of my dedicated lifestyle limitations and specific materialistic obsession, all in an effort to provide in everyway possible to my Master. From time to time you may even speak with him when I am too inundated with orders and other customers. My collars and locks are my expressive art, pride and passion. I love my trade with all of my heart! I am so blessed to be able to serve my fellow community members, as I proudly craft their collars. Thank you for visiting and I hope to welcome you to the ToBeHis family!

Why is your name "ToBeHis"?

Every once in a while, I will get asked this question. Most often in an irritated and sometimes even outraged tone with lots of caps lock and exclamation points. As it turns out, my name "ToBeHis" sometimes offends people. I am sensitive to and understand the varying reasonings entirely. However, what must be understood is that I never meant to offend with my company name. I am sorry to have put a damper on anyone's day who came across my store and took my store name so personally. I would never keyhole anyone like that. That's awful. In fact, "ToBeHis" wasn't decided on with anything like that in mind. Not even in the ballpark.

Opening this etsy store was a total shot in the dark. I never thought I would do very well in the beginning... much less well enough to reach so many people and then unknowingly offend a few. Like I said before, I am a traditional 24/7 TPE slave so I cannot have a job that takes me away from my duties to my Master, not even for a second. This is why I gave etsy another try after having a previously successful run with them a couple years prior, in another store of felt pet bowties and backpacks. This way I could simultaneously tend to Masters wants and needs and carry the financial weight I put on him (having moved in with him with not a dollar to my name, a garbage bag of clothes and two hungry dogs.)

The name came to me when I decided that I wanted to name my store after something I was most grateful for. A hope filled ship christening, so to speak. "ToBeHis" is an homage, not a targeting tactic. Its a bit of me and my story with every piece I make. I personally feel that if you put honest gratitude and positivity into anything you will receive positivity in return. Put what you desire into the universe. Then it hit me...

I am most grateful to be his.

Boom, there it was. My store's name. It is my unending gratitude to my Master who took me in and helped become a stronger, more assured, and stable young woman. ToBeHis is not a gender specific or sexually oriented name. Its a specific statement from my personal fairytale love story and my reminder to always better myself as a strong independent woman.

I get a sweet reminder of this with every single box that leaves my hands to remember where I started from and to be grateful for what he has given to me.. the push I needed to be a better victoria. I will always be grateful and love to be his, and so ToBeHis it shall stay :)

Sincerely,
victoria

Shop members

  • Victoria

    Owner, Designer, Silver/GoldSmith

    I am a woman of many hats. In addition to those above I am the photographer, product model, customer service, social media and advertising administer!

  • Paul

    Silver Smith, Customer Service

Shop policies

Last updated on December 15, 2017
Hello and Welcome to ToBeHis Luxury Hand Crafted Custom Collars and Locks! We are so honored to be able to make beautiful Day Collars that are so special and important to our customers. We consider it a privileged to be able to be a part of the lives of our "lifestyle" counterparts.

In order to serve our customers better and for there to be no confusion or miscommunication we strongly suggest you read all of the shop's policies, shop announcements, descriptions, pictures and processing times before ordering. This way we are both on the same page which will hopefully prevent any problems or misunderstandings.

Thank you!

Accepted payment methods

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  • American Express
  • Discover
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Returns and exchanges
I gladly accept cancellations
Request a cancellation within: 24 hours of purchase
I don't accept returns or exchanges
But please contact me if you have any problems with your order.
Returns and exchange details
POST ORDER ADDRESS CHANGES OR SHIPPING UPGRADES:
Any address change or shipping upgrade/downgrade requested after an order is placed will result in a cancelation so that you can resubmit your order correctly. This means you loss all order processing time progress as orders are made in chronological order and a new order puts you in the back of the order queue accordingly. We do not manually edit addresses. Please make sure you pay attention throughout the buying process and not rush to avoid this.

REFUNDS:
You MUST read our shop polices before purchasing. This is required by Etsy as well as ToBeHisLLC. Please know that we make only custom made and hand tailored items. Like all custom items, this does not allow for any refunds. This is in compliance and is fully supported by Etsy.com policy (See Etsy Policies). Under no circumstance are refunds given. You have been provided all and any information, with which you may base an educated decision to purchase one of our collars. Failure to utilize said information is in buyer error and is classified as buyer neglect.

EXCHANGES:
ToBeHis does not carry "inventory" or "pack and ship" items. You will not find a single mass produced item here! Each piece is custom made to order. There are no exchanges on any custom made items, of which every item in our store is.

REPAIRS:
If for any reason it is determined that our workmanship or product is defective, we will repair it and or replace it at our cost including round trip postage. This of course is at our discretion and will be determined by us on an individual case basis. If it is determined that the damage or problem was caused by the user, a fee of at least $24.95 will be charged (or more depending on parts and labor) not including round trip shipping. It is our goal to make quality products and to make our customers happy but we cannot be held responsible for user "misuse."

LOST/DAMAGED/STOLEN PACKAGES:
If the tracking number information for the package in question states that it was "delivered", then ToBeHis LLC. is not responsible for issuing a replacement nor a refund. It is also not ToBeHis LLC. 's responsibility to initiate nor follow any investigation made by USPS. This is your responsibility to see throughout entirely. If a package is damaged during transit, photo documentation of the entire shipment as it was delivered to you must be presented to us here, via the etsy messaging system provided for you, on the SAME exact day as delivery stated on the tracking. NO LATER, NO EXCEPTONS. These pictures in turn will depict proof of official USPS documentation that will have already been adhered on the damaged package before delivery for you.

By purchasing from our store you accept full responsibly for having read this policy and agree unconditionally to all information relayed here without warning. We will never change the appearance drastically without written warning, so don’t worry!
Payment
We accept PayPal and all major credit cards through Etsy's payment processing system. We cannot accept any credit card information directly. Please use Etsy's checkout system where all forms of payment are shown and accepted.
Shipping
You MUST read our shop polices before purchasing, to make sure there is not any information there regarding processing times, that may not coincide with any specific collars listed processing time. This is encouraged by etsy as well as ToBeHis. Anything in the shop announcements supersedes all processing times in all of our listings. By purchasing any of my items, you accept full responsibly for having read this policy and agree unconditionally to all information relayed here.

ATTENTION UK AND INTERNATIONAL BUYERS!!
Many countries including the UK impose import taxes on items purchased from the United States (which is where we are located). We here at ToBeHis have absolutely no control over your government's laws on imported items and therefore we can not be held in any way responsible for charges imposed by your government. Please note this is NOT a United States law but your countries law. If you have any questions about how much the charges are you will need to contact your local postal service or government. We cannot know this information nor can we control it in any way. Thank you!

LOST/DAMAGED/STOLEN PACKAGES:
If the tracking number information for the package in question states that it was "delivered", then ToBeHis LLC. is not responsible for issuing a replacement nor a refund. It is also not ToBeHis LLC. 's responsibility to initiate nor follow any investigation made by USPS. This is your responsibility to see throughout entirely. If a package is damaged during transit, photo documentation of the entire shipment as it was delivered to you must be presented to us here, via the etsy messaging system provided for you, on the SAME exact day as delivery stated on the tracking. NO LATER, NO EXCEPTONS. These pictures in turn will depict proof of official USPS documentation that will have already been adhered on the damaged package before delivery for you.
Additional policies and FAQs
We utilize our etsy right to cancel or deny ANY order, as we see fit. Orders to which we will exercise this right include but are not limited to:

-Customers to which we have had (or are presently having) troublesome dealings with.
- extortion of any kind (including venue extortion.)
- inappropriate or abusive language.
- copyright, trademark or patent abuse.

SIZING:
Failure to select a correct total length or size upon ordering falls under "buyer neglect", as there is an abundance of information and tips, to help you figure out your total length. ToBeHis is no way responsible for a wrong size selected by the buyer. By purchasing from ToBeHis, you agree to ALL information relayed here on this entire webpage, and understand that ToBeHis is not responsible if you purchase an incorrect size or total length. If you are unsure please contact us BEFORE your purchase and we will be more than happy to help you determine the correct size. We are always here to help and we want nothing more than for our customers to be totally happy with their purchase.

That being said, many of our items CANNOT physically be lengthened, and in this case, you will have to purchase an entirely new item. We cannot force you to read or detail our photos, we can only offer all necessary information (via word and pictures), and hope you utilize them. **Please note: ToBeHis cannot bend the laws of physics.** If it cant be lengthened, we can not change that.

Collars that cannot be lengthened are as follows:

ALL Sterling/Gold Cuffs (Neck, wrist and ankle).
ALL Leather Collars.
ALL "Other" section collars.
ALL Pearl Collars.
ALL Crystal Collars.
Certain Stainless Steel collars (please ask)
Certain Sterling/Gold Collars (please ask)

We can shorten Most of our collars. Please note that the re-sizing fee starts at $24.95 and can be more depending on the material, parts and labor needed to do so. By purchasing from our store you accept full responsibly for having read this policy and agree unconditionally to all information relayed here.

USE OF COLLARS: (VERY IMPORTANT) PLEASE USE COMMON SENSE!
Our collars are specifically "Day Collars." We know many of our customers are new to the lifestyle and might not know what the true definition of a day collar is. A more detailed explanation of "what a Day Collar is" can be found in each of our listings. Day collars are jewelry meant to be STRICTLY ornamental. They are used ONLY as a SYMBOL of our lifestyle and are not made or designed to be used in any stressful situation. They are not designed to be used in any kind of "play" or to be subject to any kind of activity that would potentially damage it. For example, if you think something you're doing might damage the collar then it probably isn't a good idea to have it on while doing so. If you're collar is delicate, it's probably no a good idea to sleep with it on or go to the gym with it on. We ask that our customers please use common sense when wearing our jewelry. We CANNOT be held responsible for user misuse. If you have any questions about how the collar should be used PLEASE ask us before purchasing. We are always here to help!

24/7 COLLARS & LOCKS
Our definition of what 24/7 means is that the item can be used during daily activities such as showering, swimming, and sweating without damaging the item or causing any kind of rust, discoloration or malfunction. While we do have many collars that can be worn continuously with out problems, some of our 24/7 rated collars are too delicate to be worn during certain activities such as sleeping or while doing strenuous activities. Again, we ask that you use common sense while using our products. If you think it can possibly be damaged by your activities it probably will be. We are always here for our customers, if you're not sure about something please ask us, we are always happy and eager to help you!

DISCLAIMER
We are also in the lifestyle so we know that a "locking" collar is important but we are required for liability reasons, to state that we do not recommend locking a collar around your neck for safety purposes. If you do, you should always have a key close by in case of emergency. A locking collar can be a safety hazard and should be used for ornamental purposes ONLY. IF YOU LOCK THE COLLAR ON YOUR NECK, ANKLE OR WRIST YOU DO SO AT YOUR OWN RISK AND WE HOLD NO RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANY INJURY CAUSED BY WEARING OUR JEWELRY.

More information

Last updated on Jul 28, 2016
Frequently asked questions
Gift wrapping and packaging

All of my pieces come securely gift wrapped in our logo box. Depending on the shipping method chosen upon checkout, regular first class mail is sent in our black bubble mailers addressed from "ToBeHis.com".

Wholesale availability

Because each piece is made individually and with our own two hands from scratch, we couldn't possibly wholesale in any quantity that would benefit us.

Define 24/7 wearable

We here at ToBeHis define 24/7 wearable as: the items composition can be in constant contact with skin without casing any reaction or irritation. This does not, by any means, mean the piece is indestructible. You must use common sense and knowledge when wearing our or any jewelry.

Durablitly

Please remember that these are DAY COLLARS, and as such they are STRCILTY ornamental. Sterling Silver and 14k+ gold are soft and precious metals. Under no circumstance are these intended for anything other than wearing, i.e. no pulling, tugging and stressing it. Otherwise you will break your own collar. Stainless Steel and Nickel Plated (locks) are stronger metals and not precious ones, but still fall under the day collar definition and care. Again, please use common sense when wearing jewelry.

Promotional Inquiries

While we appreciate the kind offer, we do not offer any free merchandise for any reason; due to the custom, handcrafted and typically high ticket nature of our pieces.