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  • May include: A document titled Breaking Codependent Patterns featuring black text on a white background. It provides advice on boundary scripts, relationship trauma, and professional support, signed by Dr. Valinda Harlan, LMHC, with a website link.
  • May include: A printed page titled Breaking Codependent Patterns featuring a numbered list from 1 to 7 with instructions for self-reflection, alongside a completed example section labeled 8 that outlines a scenario involving an unpaid electric bill.
  • May include: A printed document titled Introduction, discussing Breaking Codependent Patterns. The text explains how to identify unhealthy relationship behaviors, set boundaries, manage guilt, and foster mutual support instead of over-responsibility.
  • Cover of Breaking Codependent Patterns
  • May include: A document titled What are Dr Valinda Harlan's Qualifications and Credentials? listing professional licenses, including LMHC #60862717 and LPC #C5003, education such as PsyD and MS, and training in marriage and family therapy.
  • May include: A document titled Breaking Codependent Patterns featuring black text on a white background. It provides advice on boundary scripts, relationship trauma, and professional support, signed by Dr. Valinda Harlan, LMHC, with a website link.
  • May include: A printed page titled Breaking Codependent Patterns featuring a numbered list from 1 to 7 with instructions for self-reflection, alongside a completed example section labeled 8 that outlines a scenario involving an unpaid electric bill.
  • May include: A printed document titled Introduction, discussing Breaking Codependent Patterns. The text explains how to identify unhealthy relationship behaviors, set boundaries, manage guilt, and foster mutual support instead of over-responsibility.
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“Gorgeous addition to my reading table - thank you!”

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Dr Valinda Harlan used her 20+ years of experience as a psychology professor and licensed mental health counselor working with couples to create this workbook series.

When someone else’s mood or choices take over your day, it can be hard to tell love and self-care from guilt- and fear-driven responsibility. This workbook helps you spot the pattern and choose a response that protects your needs as well as the relationship.

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• 7 chapters, ~37 pages
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About this book:
You’ll map a recurring pattern by identifying its trigger, your automatic response, the short-term payoff, and the long-term cost. Use a Trigger Snapshot to separate what happened from what you fear it means when someone is distant or upset. Then work through the Support-or-Rescue Decision Map to tell compassionate help from taking over another person’s responsibilities. The exercises give you a way to pause, notice your limits, and practice healthier boundaries without treating codependency as a diagnosis.

Perfect for:
• People who feel responsible for a loved one’s moods, choices, or whose mood and well-being are based on the reactions of others.
• Readers working on boundaries in close relationships
• Clients using reflection exercises alongside therapy or support

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