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Help What Do I Say, Grief Etiquette Printable, What Not to Say to Someone Grieving, Condolence Texts, Bereavement Support Cheat Sheet

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Most of us have said the wrong thing to someone who is grieving. "At least they're not suffering." "Everything happens for a reason." "Let me know if you need anything." We didn't mean any harm. We meant the opposite. We were trying to comfort, and we reached for whatever words came first.

If a grieving person says one of those things about their own loss, that's theirs to say. When it comes from us, it can land as "please hurry up and feel better." Not because we're unkind, but because nobody ever taught us what actually helps.

This short guide does. Five gentle pages: what to say, what to skip and what to say instead, and texts you can copy and send today. I wrote it as a mom who lost my daughter, Harper, and as a certified grief educator, from the words that helped me most and the ones I still remember for the wrong reasons.

🕯️ WHAT IT IS
✔ A 5-page quick guide for anyone who wants to show up for someone grieving
✔ For friends, family, neighbors, coworkers, church family and teachers
✔ For any loss: a child, a parent, a spouse, a sibling, a friend
✔ All words are original, written for this shop

💛 WHAT'S INSIDE
✔ Say this: 12 short, honest things to say, plus ways to say it without words
✔ Skip this, say this instead: 12 common phrases kind people say, why they sting, and what to try
✔ Texts you can send today: for the first week, a month later, birthdays, the anniversary, the holidays, and when you haven't heard back
✔ If you already said the wrong thing: a simple 3-step repair
✔ A little space to write the words you'll use, and who you'll text
✔ A thank-you page with 25% off your next order (THANKYOU25)

📄 SIZES AND FILES
✔ US Letter and A4
✔ Color + printer-friendly (low ink) versions
✔ PDF, 4 files

🖨️ HOW IT WORKS
✔ Buy, then download right away from You > Purchases and Reviews (or the link in your email)
✔ Print at home, read it on your phone, or keep it in your Notes for when you need it
✔ Print at 100% / actual size

🎁 PERFECT FOR
✔ The moment you hear the news and freeze
✔ Before a funeral, a visit or a phone call
✔ Tucking into a sympathy card or a meal drop-off for the people helping
✔ Grief groups, churches, schools and workplaces (personal license; message me for a group license)

🤍 GOOD TO KNOW
✔ Digital download only. Nothing will be shipped to you.
✔ For personal use. Please don't resell or share the files.
✔ A gentle guide. It supports, and doesn't replace, professional care.
✔ If you or someone you love is in crisis, call or text 988 (U.S.) or your local emergency number.
✔ Want more? "How to Show Up for a Grieving Family" is the full 19-page guide for friends and family after the loss of a child.

You don't need perfect words. You only need to keep showing up.
Real tears. Real love.
Harper's Heart Press

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