Small tools for difficult moments
Hello, I'm the maker behind Tendhour.
Tendhour began at home. I have stood beside people I love through anxiety, panic attacks and alcohol addiction. I know how frightening a panic attack can look from the outside, and how lonely it can feel on the inside. I know what it is like to search late at night for something, anything, that might help.
Over the years I read, asked questions and looked for ideas from around the world. Together we tried things, kept what helped and let go of what didn't. Little by little, we built our own steps for the hard moments: what to do right now, what to try next time, and how to notice the patterns.
Along the way I have also supported many other people facing alcohol addiction, and I have seen again and again how much small, practical tools can help on a difficult day.
I have seen it with children too. A young relative of mine is on the autism spectrum. From early childhood we used simple visual planners, so he could see his day ahead and know what was coming. Those small pictures and routines made his days so much calmer.
I'm in my forties myself. When the first signs of perimenopause appeared, nobody had told me what to expect, and clear information was surprisingly hard to find. I believe every woman deserves to know the signs early, so she can understand what is happening and prepare for the journey. That's why I created my menopause tracker and appointment guide, with the health information reviewed by a gynaecologist.
Tendhour is where I share these tools, written in calm, plain language and designed to be something you want to keep close. They are not a replacement for a doctor or therapist, and my information pages are based on trusted sources such as the NHS and Mind. They are something to hold on to in between, and a reminder that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Take what helps. Leave the rest. Be gentle with yourself.